It wouldn’t be Being Naseem if there isn’t much about me to be or not to be (or a simultaneous quantum state of being and not being). You know, the whole Schrodinger’s cat in a box thing? No? Never mind.
What’s the secret ingredient for happiness? Beats me, ask Dalai Lama. What’s MY not-so-secret ingredient? Easy: Perspective re-focus. Hear me out.
Happiness for most parts comes from your perspective and attitude. A well agreed notion I’m sure you believe in too. Or at least, you want it to be true. It would mean honing your brain’s wiring to let you be in control of your own happiness. An absolute jackpot. It is for me, anyway.
In fact, old man Lama once said to me:
“Happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors.”
– Dalai Lama
This last semester, I studied a unit called Organisational Behaviour for my Management major, which had a lot of material on people’s happiness, personality and perspectives. In which I learnt that studies suggest only 10% of our happiness comes from external factors. The rest is made of our genetic makeup (thanks apes) and “intentional activities.” In other words: our behaviour, conscience and attitude. So science, old man Lama, and myself, agree on something for once.
Like I’ve said on the About page, I wake up everyday with an optimistic perspective, with a focus on why I can make today a good day rather than every other reason that would make it a bad one. “Happy thoughts, think happy thoughts.”
“Optimism is a happiness magnet. If you stay positive, good things and good people will be drawn to you.”
-Mary Lou Retton
Yea yea, bad things happen. I’ve had my days too. But I always see things as ‘bad’ as they actually are, not everything is a 100% “Oh my God why is life a tragedy.” Be realistically clear between your ‘bad’ and ‘horrible’ adversities (a parking ticket doesn’t even come close). Once you have a high standard for something to be categorised as bad, you can stand anything. You may not like it, but with the right attitude, you’ll stand it. I know I do.
All you have to do is to change how you value happiness by counting your blessings rather than by hoping for an inverse proportion in adversities. I mean think about it, how would you rate your happiness co-efficient? By how high you score in the good things in life or by how low you are on the number-of-problems axis? Because,
“To be upset over what you don’t have is to waste what you do have.”
– Unknown
So recap:
- Know your bads from your horribles.
- Remember you can stand anything with the right attitude.
- Count your blessings instead of your problems.
- Smile when you wake.
This perspective refocusing took me some practice. I didn’t turn all sunshine and rainbows overnight. It takes perseverence and patience (both of which I thought I didn’t have, if it weren’t for this perspective of optimism).
And this, is how it’s like Being Naseem. Stay happy folks!
this is really good..truly mind blowing…will u be taking any suggestions on what you could write about in any of your future blogs?! Anyways,keep it up.
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Thank you Sabah! Definitely, leave a comment or even message me directly if you’d like me share my thoughts on a topic.
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It is a nice venture that you manage to smile all the time and stay happy! And its amazing that you put a smile across every face reading this! Stay blessed and keep writing Akki!
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Thank you Fathu! I wish you the same. I see great improvement in your posts! I visit your blog regularly.
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Beautifully written,I loved ur perspective in this one! Well done…Can’t wait to see what you’ve got in store!
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Thanks buddy! Appreciation from a fellow blogger! Sweet.
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Loved your perspective in this post! Can only imagine how good your future content will be! Well written man 🙌
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I am very glad it did. You’re welcome.
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That actually helps.
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“Be realistically clear between your ‘bad’ and ‘horrible’ adversities”.
People need to start being thankful for whatever they have right now, rather than what they could’ve had in a different scenario.
Well written man, Well written.
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Abso-freaking-lutely. That is the main essence for a worry free mind. Gratefulness! Thank you Sree, appreciate it!
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Hmm… well I have always admired how you’re full of positive energy wherever you go. So this is your secret huh… Thank you for sharing Akhil. I’ll try to incorporate this perspective in my life as well. All the best with your blog!
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It’s everything but a secret buddy! Thank you James, appreciate the support.
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Wow!
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Thank you Neha! Have a good day 😀
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It is the kind of message the world today needs. Everyone is so busy whining about what they do not have or what “she/he” has which is super cool. Being Naseem has to go viral lol. Good day mate x
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You definitely got the message on point. There’s too much negativity around whining and complaining that literally sucks away good energy even in a happy environment. And you’re doing exactly what I’d like to see in people, commenting your thoughts on posts. An applause for yourself, thank you Neema.
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